3 Healthy Relationship Tools You're Sleeping On
Look around. We humans don't know how to treat each other.
So many of us are awakening. And the first heartbreak in that process is noticing just how badly we have been treated by others. We often have to put down very strong boundaries to protect ourselves from those patterns and even some people.
People we thought loved us. People we thought we could trust.
And then we get into shadow work where we hold ourselves accountable for the harm we might've caused others. We witness all of ourselves, without shame. We change our behavior. We become the example for others on how to do this for themselves.
So many of us incorporate this process into our work, using wellness modalities to influence the awakening of others.
This is the path to wide-scale healing on this planet.
But we're not there yet.
We are really only just beginning.
There is still so much work to do, especially in our closest relationships. Even when we want fulfilling relationships, we have been influenced our whole lives by unhealthy entertainment, toxic culture, and even abusive family dynamics.
There are very few tools to actually co-create relationships that are healthy, uplifting, and meaningful.
So what are we to do?
We keep going. We share resources. We create resources.
We become safe spaces for others, and learn how to actively co-create the relationships we deserve.
Here are three relationship tools that will affect your most meaningful relationships for the better.
1. Attachment Styles.
This approach is a great starting place to explain why people behave the way they do, and why simple arguments seem so painful. Research shows that we will choose romantic partners who recreate the wounds we felt as children in order to heal those wounds. The only way is to lean in. @brianamacwilliam and @thesecurerelationship on Instagram are great places to start.
2. Calming Strategies.
Nobody gets you triggered like your closest relationships. In order to show up as our best selves and get the healing we need, we must have a bank of different strategies on hand for when things get intense. Pausing an argument for some breathwork or even spending some time doing a self EMDR video can be a helpful way to get the self reflection you need when you're spiraling.
3. Intuitive Conflict Resolution Sessions.
Couples therapy can be a great resource over time, but there is a direct way to address communication breakdowns or find a path to healing from an energetic approach. In a Couples Session with expert Intuitive @clairconsultant, you can work together with an mediator who reads energy and can guide the relationship to a better place. This modality has been so effective for some, that in ONE session, a relationship went from no contact to thriving FOR YEARS. One session. If you're interested in trying this approach, contact Heather Green at clairconsultant@gmail.com for pricing on sessions.
We all struggle with our relationships. Think of how an argument can derail your entire day or even week. It's just where humanity is at right now.
Sometimes, we avoid seeking help in order to maintain our privacy. But instead of keeping it all in, remember that we rise together. Supporting your most important relationships is just another way to support ourselves. Reach out if any of these tools resonated with you!
About Heather
Heather Green, www.clairconsultant.com, is a trauma-informed expert Intuitive who specializes in conscious relationships. By reading energy, she can provide a compassionate third-party perspective intended to help each relationship overcome traumatic patterns and bloom into a healthy, loving space for all involved. Contact her at clairconsultant@gmail.com for more information on her Intuitive Relationship Sessions.
